overstaying in Malaysia for 1 day?
I have been staying here on a social visa for 3 months. My visa expired today and I can't go anywhere except Indonesia because it's the only country around where I can get Visa on Arrival and I don't have enough money to buy a ticket to go back home (Algeria). I'm still waiting for the the money my family sent me. I went to the immigration office to get an extension but they said it's not possible and that I had to make a u-turn, meaning I have to leave Malaysia and then come back. My question is, Will I be in trouble for overstaying for 1 day? And do you think I will have a problem coming back to Malaysia from Indonesia? Thank you I'm not doing anything illegal. I was just trying to go back to university but they didn't accept me for some reason. I got accepted at another university and after a month of studying they said they needed some documents in order to apply for my student visa. Unfortunately I don't have those documents here so I have to go back home and get them myself. I asked my family to send me some money but it's taking a month already. I don't really wanna stay here, but I'm stuck. I did go to the immigration office today and explained my situation to them. They just asked me to do a u-turn. He didn't seem to be too worried about it, as if it was a normal procedure.
Malaysia - 4 Answers
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Yes, you will get into trouble even overstaying one day. and no, you won't get into trouble if you leave Malaysia before your visa expires and return, but maybe you will be questioned as to why you need to return again after staying for 3-months. And yes, what were you doing in malaysia for 3 months? please do not do anything illegal, Malaysia has already her fair share of trouble, please.
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I'm sorry to hear that. However, if you overstayed in any country, even just for a day, you will be penalized for it. You should have gone to the immigration office and state your case. They may have given you some options with what you can do so you can leave and come back to Malaysia without any immigration violation. Good Luck!
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Do you really have to go back home to Algeria to get the necessary documents? Can't our family courier it? You are most welcome to study and enjoy your stay in Malaysia but overstaying your visa in ANY country is an offense so you should expect conflict with the authority. Making a U-turn is indeed a normal procedure, but the cheaper step would have been to seek help from the university to write a letter supporting an extension for your visa. It is your responsibility to take care of such matter and find solution before it's too late. One thing that surprises me in your case is that you came here on a one-way ticket. If you can't show a return ticket to your original country, Algeria, you should expect a lot of interrogation when you come back from Indonesia.
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Here's your solution 1. Buy a ticket ( either flight of ferry ) to any destination in Indonesia 2. Take that ticket together with your passport to the immigration. You'll be fined RM30 for everyday you overstay and then you'll be allowed to leave Malaysia without any problem 3. Upon paying the fine and your passport endorsed accordingly by the immigration, leave for Indonesia. 4. Stay in Indonesia for a day or two and then return to Malaysia. You'll be issued with a new social visit pass. An overstay is an overstay. It doesn't matter whether it's 1 day or 1 month or 1 year. Once caught you'll be sent to the detention centre for illegals. At the moment, if you want to obtain a valid social pass, going to Indonesia and then return to Malaysia is the only option. Going to Indonesia is really inexpensive these days. Perhaps you could choose to go to Padang, Medan, Palembang as these places are nearer to Malaysia and thus cheaper. You may also take ferry from Port Klang or Melaka to destination in Indonesia ( ferry fare for a two way trip cost not more than RM250.00 ). Don't worry, you'll be given your social visit pass accordingly upon you return from Indonesia to Malaysia.
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Is he really looking for a job?
Is he really looking for a job?
I'm 38, husband 41. We've been married for 11 years and have a ten y.o daughter. After he lost his business due to a irreconcilable dispute with his partner (this is not the first, losing and disputing I mean) and fell into a terrible bankruptcy, we had to move back to my father's house early this year. I had to let go of my own business, but thank God my old workplace is willing to take me back, but my husband is still jobless. He only stays at home, but claims to be looking for work/business through the internet and his network (by phone/text-messaging). He spends most of his time in front of TV and computer, and gets angry when I ask about his plans. He said he had been the breadwinner for ten years, so I should give him a break now. I don't think this is true because I had my own business, and my father gave him a lot of money so he could start his business. I just can't communicate with him cos he just walks away or says something nasty if he doesn't like the topic. He only helps with our kid and the chores when he is in the mood, which is rare. I wish we could see and talk to someone about this, but I don't think there are any marriage counselors in my area - I live in a small town in Indonesia - but if there were any, my husband wouldn't go. I asked him once to come with me to see our pastor, but he only told me to take a look at myself in the mirror before judging others, and not to hang our dirty laundry in public. I want to make sure that this is only a stage that I have to go through, that I just have to brace myself till it's over, that I'm not being weak and lame, and making myself everyone's door mat. I feel so limited now and that makes me really angry. Maybe if there were just me and my daughter, life would be less complicated? Maybe we should plan to move away together, just me and my daughter? Or maybe my husband is just afraid of facing life after the loss? How can I make him want to get out there and start over? I hate having to support a healthy man all the time. And I don't think he's being a good role model for our daughter. What should I do?
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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You've hit the nail right on the head. Life would be easier if it was just you and your daughter. So what are you waiting for?
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My father went thru this for a year when he lost his job. It was not a good year and he turned to drinking. Things were very difficult at home while he was without a job. I think it started with the idea that he was not the breadwinner at the moment where he had been for years and years before. That may be something your husband doesn't like. But my dad actually did go out and look for jobs. Taking resumes and filling out applications. That is something that your man is not doing, and you can only network so much at home before you need to go out and physically do this. Talk to him about your feelings and tell him that this is really bothering you. Hopefully he will see that you are seriously worried about the situation and either turn to someone such as your pastor or start going out and looking for a job. Sometimes its hard for a man to go out looking for a job because they want to be strong and looking for a job at times may look like to some that you're asking or help. You could offer to bring home job applications to him and see if this helps.
3 :
In this case, with him putting the blame on you and not willing to seek help, I would separate from him and force him to at least have to support himself...his attitude is bad and maybe he is suffering from the loss, but he is doing absolutly nothing to get back on his feet. Move on
4 :
I think you should move away with your daughter for some time and then tell him by phone, post, e-mail or whatever that you are not coming back until he gets a job and is willing to treat you better. If he really loves you he would sit up!
5 :
Your husband needs counseling, after that and he still does not improve, then I would think about Plan B. It sounds like your husband is really depressed and medication might be the answer to get him back on his feet, counseling and medication, and if that does not work and he is not willing to do this for you and your child, then I would definately leave him, and get a good life for you and your child.
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Your husband has gotten lazy and you must nip this in the bud. He is probably feeling sorry for himself that his business did not work out, but he can't sit and reflect on it any longer. What's done is done, time to move on to better things! It might be hard, but see if you can't help him update his resume. Have him determine for himself what his best qualities are and what jobs he should apply to, then get online and start scourging all the job sites like monster, careerbuilder and craigslist. When my husband was unemployed at the beginning of this year, I would get online everyday for him and look around, I would print off jobs that looked interested and let him decide if he wanted to send to them. It took 4 months but now he's got a good job and I am happy everyday that he is working. Best of luck to you, it can only get better from here on out.
I'm 38, husband 41. We've been married for 11 years and have a ten y.o daughter. After he lost his business due to a irreconcilable dispute with his partner (this is not the first, losing and disputing I mean) and fell into a terrible bankruptcy, we had to move back to my father's house early this year. I had to let go of my own business, but thank God my old workplace is willing to take me back, but my husband is still jobless. He only stays at home, but claims to be looking for work/business through the internet and his network (by phone/text-messaging). He spends most of his time in front of TV and computer, and gets angry when I ask about his plans. He said he had been the breadwinner for ten years, so I should give him a break now. I don't think this is true because I had my own business, and my father gave him a lot of money so he could start his business. I just can't communicate with him cos he just walks away or says something nasty if he doesn't like the topic. He only helps with our kid and the chores when he is in the mood, which is rare. I wish we could see and talk to someone about this, but I don't think there are any marriage counselors in my area - I live in a small town in Indonesia - but if there were any, my husband wouldn't go. I asked him once to come with me to see our pastor, but he only told me to take a look at myself in the mirror before judging others, and not to hang our dirty laundry in public. I want to make sure that this is only a stage that I have to go through, that I just have to brace myself till it's over, that I'm not being weak and lame, and making myself everyone's door mat. I feel so limited now and that makes me really angry. Maybe if there were just me and my daughter, life would be less complicated? Maybe we should plan to move away together, just me and my daughter? Or maybe my husband is just afraid of facing life after the loss? How can I make him want to get out there and start over? I hate having to support a healthy man all the time. And I don't think he's being a good role model for our daughter. What should I do?
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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1 :
You've hit the nail right on the head. Life would be easier if it was just you and your daughter. So what are you waiting for?
2 :
My father went thru this for a year when he lost his job. It was not a good year and he turned to drinking. Things were very difficult at home while he was without a job. I think it started with the idea that he was not the breadwinner at the moment where he had been for years and years before. That may be something your husband doesn't like. But my dad actually did go out and look for jobs. Taking resumes and filling out applications. That is something that your man is not doing, and you can only network so much at home before you need to go out and physically do this. Talk to him about your feelings and tell him that this is really bothering you. Hopefully he will see that you are seriously worried about the situation and either turn to someone such as your pastor or start going out and looking for a job. Sometimes its hard for a man to go out looking for a job because they want to be strong and looking for a job at times may look like to some that you're asking or help. You could offer to bring home job applications to him and see if this helps.
3 :
In this case, with him putting the blame on you and not willing to seek help, I would separate from him and force him to at least have to support himself...his attitude is bad and maybe he is suffering from the loss, but he is doing absolutly nothing to get back on his feet. Move on
4 :
I think you should move away with your daughter for some time and then tell him by phone, post, e-mail or whatever that you are not coming back until he gets a job and is willing to treat you better. If he really loves you he would sit up!
5 :
Your husband needs counseling, after that and he still does not improve, then I would think about Plan B. It sounds like your husband is really depressed and medication might be the answer to get him back on his feet, counseling and medication, and if that does not work and he is not willing to do this for you and your child, then I would definately leave him, and get a good life for you and your child.
6 :
Your husband has gotten lazy and you must nip this in the bud. He is probably feeling sorry for himself that his business did not work out, but he can't sit and reflect on it any longer. What's done is done, time to move on to better things! It might be hard, but see if you can't help him update his resume. Have him determine for himself what his best qualities are and what jobs he should apply to, then get online and start scourging all the job sites like monster, careerbuilder and craigslist. When my husband was unemployed at the beginning of this year, I would get online everyday for him and look around, I would print off jobs that looked interested and let him decide if he wanted to send to them. It took 4 months but now he's got a good job and I am happy everyday that he is working. Best of luck to you, it can only get better from here on out.
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Parents always UNINTENTIONALLY insulted you for being who you are. Would you politely tell them how you feel?
Parents always UNINTENTIONALLY insulted you for being who you are. Would you politely tell them how you feel?
I try to live frugally while looking for the RIGHT job in The U.S. Meanwhile, my sister is getting married in 3 months; and my parents offered to help with my travel expense to attend the wedding in Indonesia where they all live. I don't have that kind of money unless I use 0% for 12 months credit card I have (I think it's a bad idea.) Though, I feel that I have been pressured to go. I love being independent & grown up; yet, my feeling is hurt every time I told them my struggles (but happy life) in the U.S., and they said passive aggressively that no sympathy for me because I brought it to myself ETC. (I would have been fine financially living at home until married like traditional good asian girl.) Should I politely tell them the truth? OR should I let it go? (After all, they are human who can make mistakes.) Should I go to my sister's wedding? What would you do?
Family - 4 Answers
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Let it go.. prove your parents wrong and buy the ticket yourself and go to your sisters wedding. Your sister will appreciate it. My parents still kinda treat me like I'm 10 when I'm actually 27. I have had to prove them wrong a few times so they can get off my back.
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move to your aunt and uncle's house in bel air
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whenever my folks rag on me i try and prove them wrong, which is a lot, so i would try to save up for the wedding but if you can't come to a compromise with your folks. and ignore their nagging family is family there's no escaping it.
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Allow them to help but be willing to pay them back. You have changed cultures and they feel that you have turned you back on your heritage. As for using the credit card that is the worst possible thing you could do. Check with the air lines and see what the cheapest flight is as leaving in the middle of the week and at night may help
I try to live frugally while looking for the RIGHT job in The U.S. Meanwhile, my sister is getting married in 3 months; and my parents offered to help with my travel expense to attend the wedding in Indonesia where they all live. I don't have that kind of money unless I use 0% for 12 months credit card I have (I think it's a bad idea.) Though, I feel that I have been pressured to go. I love being independent & grown up; yet, my feeling is hurt every time I told them my struggles (but happy life) in the U.S., and they said passive aggressively that no sympathy for me because I brought it to myself ETC. (I would have been fine financially living at home until married like traditional good asian girl.) Should I politely tell them the truth? OR should I let it go? (After all, they are human who can make mistakes.) Should I go to my sister's wedding? What would you do?
Family - 4 Answers
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Let it go.. prove your parents wrong and buy the ticket yourself and go to your sisters wedding. Your sister will appreciate it. My parents still kinda treat me like I'm 10 when I'm actually 27. I have had to prove them wrong a few times so they can get off my back.
2 :
move to your aunt and uncle's house in bel air
3 :
whenever my folks rag on me i try and prove them wrong, which is a lot, so i would try to save up for the wedding but if you can't come to a compromise with your folks. and ignore their nagging family is family there's no escaping it.
4 :
Allow them to help but be willing to pay them back. You have changed cultures and they feel that you have turned you back on your heritage. As for using the credit card that is the worst possible thing you could do. Check with the air lines and see what the cheapest flight is as leaving in the middle of the week and at night may help
Friday, February 1, 2013
why can't we use our own resources with out someone bitching.?
why can't we use our own resources with out someone bitching.?
PART 1. Is it funny to anyone else how when ever we try to mine our own resources, or use our own innovation, some nut job comes around and sues the people who try to make our world better. We could mine our own minerals, our own energy and power our nation, but instead we import much of what we already have from nations who hate us, who do a dirtier job and who have more corruption and war and we make them wealthier for it, while our country slips in to a recession unlike any thing we have experienced in many generations. The worst part is our government is trying to use money we don't have to stimulate our economy instead of looking for ways to put the US economy back on the map. PART 2 is for the environmental wackos. PLEASE, before you protest our country for trying to enhance the average Americana's life who cares more about their wallet than freaking global warming and the depletion of ozone layer, ask your self where the shoes on your feet and the clothes on your back come from. How about the house you live in, or the batteries that aid in running your earth friendly car. Research the mines where those batteries come from. Research the lifestyle of Nancy pelosi and Al Gore. Ask why they don't live in a yert, grow their own organic food and make their own clothes from a regional cotton farm and why they don't drive scooters to work before you protest one more American project that would better the country you live in. If you still feel the need to protest, go to China, Iraq, Iran, Thailand, or Indonesia and protest them. Ask why that can't do it as cleanly as we could. See if you come back with your tong, much less at all. Part 3 Taxing the wealthy. Have you ever asked an American business owner why they chose to contract one of their inventions over there rather than at home. When they do, they create some middle class jobs over seas and bring the profit home to America.We should tax the hell out of them. If they had a place in America where their corporations could exist with little Taxation, would they be more deserving of their wealth if they created higher paying jobs here? Would you pay the made in America Preimum for the betterment of our country rather than higher taxes. How about only taxing the hell out of those who chose to do business outside of the US and imposing a small tax on those who do business in the US and a fair even tax on the Wealthy CEO's of American businesses who create middle class jobs here. Do they deserve a reward for doing the right thing by employing Americans? Thanks for reading. Sincerely, Fed up with upper middle class hippies who live in the Suburbs, The republicans who's free trade policies make the wealthy clueless, while shrinking the middle class and the hipocrat democrats who fly private jets and Dig on America while there visiting the EU countries.
Other - Politics & Government - 1 Answers
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much truth to that.... they need to propose 1 tax for all in america and do away with tax brackets.. mcCain/Palin 2008
PART 1. Is it funny to anyone else how when ever we try to mine our own resources, or use our own innovation, some nut job comes around and sues the people who try to make our world better. We could mine our own minerals, our own energy and power our nation, but instead we import much of what we already have from nations who hate us, who do a dirtier job and who have more corruption and war and we make them wealthier for it, while our country slips in to a recession unlike any thing we have experienced in many generations. The worst part is our government is trying to use money we don't have to stimulate our economy instead of looking for ways to put the US economy back on the map. PART 2 is for the environmental wackos. PLEASE, before you protest our country for trying to enhance the average Americana's life who cares more about their wallet than freaking global warming and the depletion of ozone layer, ask your self where the shoes on your feet and the clothes on your back come from. How about the house you live in, or the batteries that aid in running your earth friendly car. Research the mines where those batteries come from. Research the lifestyle of Nancy pelosi and Al Gore. Ask why they don't live in a yert, grow their own organic food and make their own clothes from a regional cotton farm and why they don't drive scooters to work before you protest one more American project that would better the country you live in. If you still feel the need to protest, go to China, Iraq, Iran, Thailand, or Indonesia and protest them. Ask why that can't do it as cleanly as we could. See if you come back with your tong, much less at all. Part 3 Taxing the wealthy. Have you ever asked an American business owner why they chose to contract one of their inventions over there rather than at home. When they do, they create some middle class jobs over seas and bring the profit home to America.We should tax the hell out of them. If they had a place in America where their corporations could exist with little Taxation, would they be more deserving of their wealth if they created higher paying jobs here? Would you pay the made in America Preimum for the betterment of our country rather than higher taxes. How about only taxing the hell out of those who chose to do business outside of the US and imposing a small tax on those who do business in the US and a fair even tax on the Wealthy CEO's of American businesses who create middle class jobs here. Do they deserve a reward for doing the right thing by employing Americans? Thanks for reading. Sincerely, Fed up with upper middle class hippies who live in the Suburbs, The republicans who's free trade policies make the wealthy clueless, while shrinking the middle class and the hipocrat democrats who fly private jets and Dig on America while there visiting the EU countries.
Other - Politics & Government - 1 Answers
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much truth to that.... they need to propose 1 tax for all in america and do away with tax brackets.. mcCain/Palin 2008
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