Why is my father like this?
Well my father likes remind me of how inadequate i am.. Well for him at least.. I think i do alright in school, but he is always making fun of me and telling me to get out of the house, but almost never lets me sleep at a friends house or go out or anything, that's why i don't get out of the house, cos i cant.. When i get grades like C's he gets all mad and makes fun of me, and when i get A's he doesn't say anything, no reward, no pat on the back no 'good job son' no nothing.. That's why i'm not really motivated to do well in school, i don't really mind what grades i get cos there's really no incentive for me to do good.. Also, when it comes to choosing a job later in life, he always says, " why don't you work on an oil rig? those guys make loads of money and you don't need to be that intelligent' or other jobs that don't require much training, obviously implying that he thinks i can't do good..I really don't care about money, i just want to do something i like.. When i told him what i want to do, he just laughed.. Why does he always make me feel like i can't ever do good? I'm not stupid or anything, if i really want to i could get all A's but i just don't see the point cos i never get anything out of it.. Oh and he makes fun of my mom alot cos she is kind of poor, most of moms family is poor, and he's always saying things (when my grades are bad) ok why don't you go live with the 'winners' in LA? (i live in indonesia with him, biggest mistake of my life i really miss my mom!!) Thanks for reading..
Family - 3 Answers
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1 :
See if you can go back to live with your Mom or other relatives. Your incentive to make good grades is your future out of the situation you are in right now. Make very good grades, go to college if you can, and show your Dad how smart you really are, then shower your Mom with your kindness.
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Some fathers are like that. Its because he was a loser. he behaves so. Thats just dad. ignore him if irritating and go for ur jobs prove u r not vat he thinks. I had it with my aunt. but now i proved and she has shut her mouth.
3 :
Your father is projecting his own insecurities on you. Some fathers feel threatened by a son who may become more competent and talented than they were. You need to be raised in a home with love, not derision. You don't want to hear your father's negaive voice in the back of your head limiting you all your life. If you can get back to your mom you should do so.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Husband is threatening to leave after 20 years of marriage?
Husband is threatening to leave after 20 years of marriage?
We build a beautiful house 3 years ago. Suddenly he's fed up with me and claims that I've been a bad wife through out this marriage. Though, I'm the one still sitting at home taking care of everything waiting on him and the kids, while he's done exactly what he's wanted all these years; many degrees and a good job. I'm supposed to do whatever he expects me to do - I can only enjoy things if he's okay with it. I'm not allowed to get upset or mad but he can yell and throw mean fits and insults anytime because then that's when he's going to leave and make me suffer. I've been through ups and downs with the marriage, now when he's making so much money this is when he wants to leave and as he says, make me provide for myself and will only support me and the kids with very little monthly payment that can hardly pay the rent. Which I'm not sure that I can do because its just hard and scary. All these years I could have been doing something for myself, but he claimed he wanted an "old fashioned marriage" a homemaker. I don't have a degree and I have a small part time job that I've been doing for the past 2 yrs. He claims that he's going to move back to his country (Indonesia) overseas where no one can interfere with him. He has so much money stashed up over there and god knows where else, that no one has access to and has very little savings here (I know this for a fact). How can I get him to support us completely when he's going to get a much lower paying job in his country? I don't have any family members except my brother who's already struggling financially.
Marriage & Divorce - 5 Answers
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hmmm..What a terrible situation you're in. You really did a good job supporting him, but I believe the reality is this, you need to file for divorce right away. This guy is going to scoot the country, and he just might seel the house behind your back too. Hire an attorney immediately. If you are serious about protecting your assets..I have some great tips you can do on Monday morning...just email me.
2 :
i wouldn't care how much money he has, i wouldn't want his money supporting me, all he ever cared about was being filthy rich. i would just leave and never look back. maybe then he'll realize what a true treasure he lost.
3 :
You decide what is best for you and the children. He wants out...let him go and smile. Your attorney will handle the rest.
4 :
as the now old shoe he is leaving you in the closet just because he has money stashed all over the world in his personal accounts does not mean that a good lawyer can't make him cough it up through his nose get legal council and get an injunction to keep him in the USA until the divorce is settled. tmm
5 :
Go out and find the best attorney that will make him pay and will be able to put a freeze on all his finance.
We build a beautiful house 3 years ago. Suddenly he's fed up with me and claims that I've been a bad wife through out this marriage. Though, I'm the one still sitting at home taking care of everything waiting on him and the kids, while he's done exactly what he's wanted all these years; many degrees and a good job. I'm supposed to do whatever he expects me to do - I can only enjoy things if he's okay with it. I'm not allowed to get upset or mad but he can yell and throw mean fits and insults anytime because then that's when he's going to leave and make me suffer. I've been through ups and downs with the marriage, now when he's making so much money this is when he wants to leave and as he says, make me provide for myself and will only support me and the kids with very little monthly payment that can hardly pay the rent. Which I'm not sure that I can do because its just hard and scary. All these years I could have been doing something for myself, but he claimed he wanted an "old fashioned marriage" a homemaker. I don't have a degree and I have a small part time job that I've been doing for the past 2 yrs. He claims that he's going to move back to his country (Indonesia) overseas where no one can interfere with him. He has so much money stashed up over there and god knows where else, that no one has access to and has very little savings here (I know this for a fact). How can I get him to support us completely when he's going to get a much lower paying job in his country? I don't have any family members except my brother who's already struggling financially.
Marriage & Divorce - 5 Answers
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1 :
hmmm..What a terrible situation you're in. You really did a good job supporting him, but I believe the reality is this, you need to file for divorce right away. This guy is going to scoot the country, and he just might seel the house behind your back too. Hire an attorney immediately. If you are serious about protecting your assets..I have some great tips you can do on Monday morning...just email me.
2 :
i wouldn't care how much money he has, i wouldn't want his money supporting me, all he ever cared about was being filthy rich. i would just leave and never look back. maybe then he'll realize what a true treasure he lost.
3 :
You decide what is best for you and the children. He wants out...let him go and smile. Your attorney will handle the rest.
4 :
as the now old shoe he is leaving you in the closet just because he has money stashed all over the world in his personal accounts does not mean that a good lawyer can't make him cough it up through his nose get legal council and get an injunction to keep him in the USA until the divorce is settled. tmm
5 :
Go out and find the best attorney that will make him pay and will be able to put a freeze on all his finance.
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
How do you view this ""Inspirational Message""?
How do you view this ""Inspirational Message""?
""Inspirational ! Power of Money, By Adam Khoo ( Singapore 's youngest millionaire at 26 yrs.) Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia , Indonesia , Thailand and Suzhou ( China ). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books. Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is traveling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. ' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires' ). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one. The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice. When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur' s Orgn) a few years back (YEO) is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota 's and Nissans, not Audis, Mercs, BMWs. I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business. Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewellery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life. Instead, what makes me happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this blog is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me. I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be it teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product."""
Other - Society & Culture - 3 Answers
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Well!!!!!!! A nice message to ponder upon.. Thank you for sharing with us!!
2 :
Very wonderful message, simply rich!
3 :
Nice lines: "what makes me happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this blog is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me..."!! But what do we actually do? We pamper children with ''gifts'' of sorts at every opportunity and make them feel good with material things.. with the result we make them seek the joy outside of themselves, that is shortlived and ever keeps one expecting for more and more, still remaining unsatiated!! Govt gives sops to people to attract votes, instead of giving opportunities to grow economically!! Traders give ''gifts'' with their products, to attract customers. Parents bribe kids promising something if they did their study / sports well etc. We are ever held in the grip of material attractions that carry the pride of ''merit'' earned /acknowledged or love shared.. So we are thrown into a conditioning from childhood to look upon material possessions as adding some 'value' to life. We do not take the Budha's insistence to keep desires at bay or more practical advice of great ones like Sai Baba to keep ''a ceiling on desires'' which are very useful tips to us. That a millionaire baled out this gem from his stark personal perception and practice is highly significant and we should care to imbibe the salutary habit in our own lives, for our best interests. Thnx Bull for the quote - many of us miss such nice articles of value, while wasting our time reading the political jokes and news of inconsequence!
""Inspirational ! Power of Money, By Adam Khoo ( Singapore 's youngest millionaire at 26 yrs.) Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia , Indonesia , Thailand and Suzhou ( China ). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books. Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is traveling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. ' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires' ). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one. The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice. When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur' s Orgn) a few years back (YEO) is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota 's and Nissans, not Audis, Mercs, BMWs. I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business. Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewellery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life. Instead, what makes me happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this blog is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me. I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be it teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product."""
Other - Society & Culture - 3 Answers
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1 :
Well!!!!!!! A nice message to ponder upon.. Thank you for sharing with us!!
2 :
Very wonderful message, simply rich!
3 :
Nice lines: "what makes me happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this blog is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me..."!! But what do we actually do? We pamper children with ''gifts'' of sorts at every opportunity and make them feel good with material things.. with the result we make them seek the joy outside of themselves, that is shortlived and ever keeps one expecting for more and more, still remaining unsatiated!! Govt gives sops to people to attract votes, instead of giving opportunities to grow economically!! Traders give ''gifts'' with their products, to attract customers. Parents bribe kids promising something if they did their study / sports well etc. We are ever held in the grip of material attractions that carry the pride of ''merit'' earned /acknowledged or love shared.. So we are thrown into a conditioning from childhood to look upon material possessions as adding some 'value' to life. We do not take the Budha's insistence to keep desires at bay or more practical advice of great ones like Sai Baba to keep ''a ceiling on desires'' which are very useful tips to us. That a millionaire baled out this gem from his stark personal perception and practice is highly significant and we should care to imbibe the salutary habit in our own lives, for our best interests. Thnx Bull for the quote - many of us miss such nice articles of value, while wasting our time reading the political jokes and news of inconsequence!
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Why do Malaysians accept bribery/corruption as a 'norm'?
Why do Malaysians accept bribery/corruption as a 'norm'?
In no time, I forsee a downfall in social ethics and businesses, including government agencies and projects with a similarity to those of Thailand and Indonesia (or worse, Cambodia). Singaporeans can be quite corrupted as well, but they DO often make themselves corrupted overseas whereas Malaysians are proud of being a corrupted lot in business deals and government projects... yes, I mean real PROUD because they boast of 'contacts' and 'people' they know who are corrupted... they know the 'back doors' in business deals and how to get around in dealing with law. In fact, it is as if 'money' is the law for Malaysians... You can buy your 'social status', own the police force (yes... literally), even kill who you dislike and getting away for the crime that is committed for a fee. For those who like comparing Malaysian with other third world countries, keep it up. You're just proving me right when I've said that Malaysia is a third world country... just ahead of time. ironlady, I don't quite get you... are you accusing me for being 'one' of them? What have you against me for saying such things?
Malaysia - 9 Answers
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It's sad and upsetting isn't it. But remember that every country in every level has corruption/bribery/injustice/ greed. Ever since time. The problem is that corruption and what we're talking about goes right back to the those who practice and tolerate it. Just like pollution, if you pollute and litter, it will affect everyone including you later on. Nobody wins. Also, it's important for a country or its citizens to not think that they are the only ones. It's only now that things are being seen in the open and the whole world is getting worse. Thank you for being aware, concerned and for sharing it with everyone.
2 :
I'm sorry to say, I think you one of them. I seen lots of successful business company who do not practice corruption or bribery, they are successful because they are professionals. I'm proud to say I'm not practicing any of those thing you written here and I'm one of the successful businesswoman and im proud to be malaysian too.
3 :
Corruption and Bribery have become Cancer in our society. Very sad this sh*t is happening in our own country. I don't know how to trust any government officer. Even BPR from my opinion is a corrupted agency ... same goes to our law enforcers. Since our government not acted as a good example ... the society also has been effected by such conduct ... simple example is ... when you go for clubbing ... the normal cover charge rate in KL is around RM45 ... but sometimes your friend will asked you to follow him because he can brought you in without any charge because the bouncer know him well or one of his friend ... so? corrupt la tu! :O(
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welcome back bear, i hope you havent lost the passion to share/expose what our government is like. However i do understand that you have to keep quiet for reasons you know best.
5 :
Ironlady must be very very lucky not to have to grease any palms in her path up the corporate ladder, but beware that it is near impossible not to dabble in some form of bribery when it comes to mega-budget projects over here. Once corruption is rooted into society it is extremely hard to get rid of it - look at China and India, so much growth and technological progress but you must have lots and lots of extra $$$ included in your 'capital' to start a business there, if not you can forget it, business will never take off. A friend of mine's dad lost half a million ringgit trying to start in India what he started here in KL - a biotech company specialising in diagnostic products. He had to bribe everybody from the truck driver who transported products from the port to the office in the city, to the local politicians who could 'speed up' the approvals of licenses. Most of that money he spent greasing palms, there was no profit because the return on investment was negative. It is sad to say that since corruption was here even before the British left, it will be here to stay. It was easy for the British to convince the Sultans and rulers back then that everything they did, they did for the good of Malaya. How do you think the Brits convinced the rulers? Money talks.
6 :
Chief Lone Wolf says Malaysian govt is no good. Lone Wolf's clone has lost out because of the practises by the corrupted govt in approving tenders. BN sucks.
7 :
i'm too sexy to receive bribe or to do corruption as they always bribe me out with expensive gifts and money... i think it okey as i love receiving expensive bribes as to balance my expensive lifestyle...maintenance are to high as to kept myself sexy always..
8 :
Most of the countries including malaysia & singapore & thailand having corruption problem. Your statement just shows like that, its the ones who accept bribery is the main problem (which is you said the govern. police what not). -- sometimes you need to know that ppl who gave them money is the worst man of all.. why you want to buy their 'social status' afterall? for me both have to be blame but the main person to be blamed it the hand that give rather than the hand that accept it.. we just can say no to corruption. Can We?? as a muslim for your guys info its a sin to give & accept bribery... & most of the muslims will hold on to that.. which is not accepting / practicing bribery.. So let us make a call to PPL that give bribery rather than the one receiving it..
9 :
Its all very well to blame government officers on corruption, but we should hold those who do the 'bribing' accountable too. I'm the son of a career army officer who has served the country for many years from merdeka till the 80s. When he retired, his pay was equivalent to that of a middle management executive in the private sector, and I can only wonder how the other ranks are getting by. I'm not going to put this as an excuse to accepting bribes, but while we may hold up ideals on how corruption should be eradicated, we should also perhaps look at what instigate it in the first place. I dare say corruption has it roots because people in the public sector at one time had difficulties making ends meet, and once it became a habit, it quickly merged to greed. Bear, I'm just going to say this about comparing ourselves with 3rd world countries. Sometimes, its good to acknowledge that we've had some success to move up the chain, not so much for self congratulations, but more to appreciate the fact that we have some liberties not afforder to some, that perhaps if we had taken a wrong turn, or do take a wrong turn later, we'll be just like them. We can strive to be first world, we should aim for the first world I suppose, but we whle striving to better ourselves, we should also be appreciative for what we have achieved.
In no time, I forsee a downfall in social ethics and businesses, including government agencies and projects with a similarity to those of Thailand and Indonesia (or worse, Cambodia). Singaporeans can be quite corrupted as well, but they DO often make themselves corrupted overseas whereas Malaysians are proud of being a corrupted lot in business deals and government projects... yes, I mean real PROUD because they boast of 'contacts' and 'people' they know who are corrupted... they know the 'back doors' in business deals and how to get around in dealing with law. In fact, it is as if 'money' is the law for Malaysians... You can buy your 'social status', own the police force (yes... literally), even kill who you dislike and getting away for the crime that is committed for a fee. For those who like comparing Malaysian with other third world countries, keep it up. You're just proving me right when I've said that Malaysia is a third world country... just ahead of time. ironlady, I don't quite get you... are you accusing me for being 'one' of them? What have you against me for saying such things?
Malaysia - 9 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
It's sad and upsetting isn't it. But remember that every country in every level has corruption/bribery/injustice/ greed. Ever since time. The problem is that corruption and what we're talking about goes right back to the those who practice and tolerate it. Just like pollution, if you pollute and litter, it will affect everyone including you later on. Nobody wins. Also, it's important for a country or its citizens to not think that they are the only ones. It's only now that things are being seen in the open and the whole world is getting worse. Thank you for being aware, concerned and for sharing it with everyone.
2 :
I'm sorry to say, I think you one of them. I seen lots of successful business company who do not practice corruption or bribery, they are successful because they are professionals. I'm proud to say I'm not practicing any of those thing you written here and I'm one of the successful businesswoman and im proud to be malaysian too.
3 :
Corruption and Bribery have become Cancer in our society. Very sad this sh*t is happening in our own country. I don't know how to trust any government officer. Even BPR from my opinion is a corrupted agency ... same goes to our law enforcers. Since our government not acted as a good example ... the society also has been effected by such conduct ... simple example is ... when you go for clubbing ... the normal cover charge rate in KL is around RM45 ... but sometimes your friend will asked you to follow him because he can brought you in without any charge because the bouncer know him well or one of his friend ... so? corrupt la tu! :O(
4 :
welcome back bear, i hope you havent lost the passion to share/expose what our government is like. However i do understand that you have to keep quiet for reasons you know best.
5 :
Ironlady must be very very lucky not to have to grease any palms in her path up the corporate ladder, but beware that it is near impossible not to dabble in some form of bribery when it comes to mega-budget projects over here. Once corruption is rooted into society it is extremely hard to get rid of it - look at China and India, so much growth and technological progress but you must have lots and lots of extra $$$ included in your 'capital' to start a business there, if not you can forget it, business will never take off. A friend of mine's dad lost half a million ringgit trying to start in India what he started here in KL - a biotech company specialising in diagnostic products. He had to bribe everybody from the truck driver who transported products from the port to the office in the city, to the local politicians who could 'speed up' the approvals of licenses. Most of that money he spent greasing palms, there was no profit because the return on investment was negative. It is sad to say that since corruption was here even before the British left, it will be here to stay. It was easy for the British to convince the Sultans and rulers back then that everything they did, they did for the good of Malaya. How do you think the Brits convinced the rulers? Money talks.
6 :
Chief Lone Wolf says Malaysian govt is no good. Lone Wolf's clone has lost out because of the practises by the corrupted govt in approving tenders. BN sucks.
7 :
i'm too sexy to receive bribe or to do corruption as they always bribe me out with expensive gifts and money... i think it okey as i love receiving expensive bribes as to balance my expensive lifestyle...maintenance are to high as to kept myself sexy always..
8 :
Most of the countries including malaysia & singapore & thailand having corruption problem. Your statement just shows like that, its the ones who accept bribery is the main problem (which is you said the govern. police what not). -- sometimes you need to know that ppl who gave them money is the worst man of all.. why you want to buy their 'social status' afterall? for me both have to be blame but the main person to be blamed it the hand that give rather than the hand that accept it.. we just can say no to corruption. Can We?? as a muslim for your guys info its a sin to give & accept bribery... & most of the muslims will hold on to that.. which is not accepting / practicing bribery.. So let us make a call to PPL that give bribery rather than the one receiving it..
9 :
Its all very well to blame government officers on corruption, but we should hold those who do the 'bribing' accountable too. I'm the son of a career army officer who has served the country for many years from merdeka till the 80s. When he retired, his pay was equivalent to that of a middle management executive in the private sector, and I can only wonder how the other ranks are getting by. I'm not going to put this as an excuse to accepting bribes, but while we may hold up ideals on how corruption should be eradicated, we should also perhaps look at what instigate it in the first place. I dare say corruption has it roots because people in the public sector at one time had difficulties making ends meet, and once it became a habit, it quickly merged to greed. Bear, I'm just going to say this about comparing ourselves with 3rd world countries. Sometimes, its good to acknowledge that we've had some success to move up the chain, not so much for self congratulations, but more to appreciate the fact that we have some liberties not afforder to some, that perhaps if we had taken a wrong turn, or do take a wrong turn later, we'll be just like them. We can strive to be first world, we should aim for the first world I suppose, but we whle striving to better ourselves, we should also be appreciative for what we have achieved.
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