what should i do now ?
i'd like to know people's opinion about my problem !! I met this girl on the net . She lives in indonesia .I live in the north of Iraq ! we talked for long hours , till we really knew each other very well . She is polite , honest , and obedient . we became like a family ! she called me every minute to ask after me .. until she sent me an sms , one day , to tell me that she rally '' loves '' me ! as she said she wanted to make it a surprise to me ! i became happy for that , then we began to think and manage the way we can meet each other .. i told her it would take time until i am able to meet her in person .. she told me that she will wait for me even 100 years !! because she loves me and wants to marry me .. i started working hard , day and night , about 12 hours a day , to be able to collect enough money to travel to her . so and so .. days passed , till i became ready to travel to her .. she was very happy .. then , i prepared myself , and put my feet into the airplane , my 1st steps to go to the woman who chose me .. when i reached the first country ( my way to Indonesia ) i sent her a message that i would be in indonesia in few days .. then , here came what was in-believable !! she replied '' i'm sorry , i can't continue this relationship !! she deleted her email address , shutted down her phone , so as not to contact her anymore!! i tried more and more , i talked to her sister , she told me when i reach Indonesia , it will be something else .. may be she still feel i'm too far a way from her .. i reached Malaysia , she refused to meet me .. she said that she wishes that i find another woman .. !!! it was a great shock to me .. she did not tell me the reason , nor did her sister tell me !! no one told me .. they refused to talk to me .. what was all that ??? what should i do now ?? why is this ?? i really can't understand !! i wanna some advice from u people plz .. coz i feel i'm lost ... thank u very much for reading my long question ..
Singles & Dating - 4 Answers
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1 :
Honestly, I don't know how old you are man. But you need to realize that you are going to meet a lot of girls in your life. If you start relationships with girls where it is doomed to fail from the get go then you are wasting your time and going to end up hurt and pissed at the world. Find somebody that it makes sense for you to date. So in summation 1) The relationship was a bad idea in the first place so chalk it up to "lessons learned" and move on ASAP. 2) don't repeat the same mistake. Follow my two pronged approach to your love life and you will see success.
2 :
Gosh, I'm sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately, some people you meet online will do that. Maybe she didn't expect you to actually come visit her. Maybe she was happy that you were coming to visit, but her father said he would kill you the minute you stepped off of the airplane. So rejecting you was the only way she could save you from his anger. Only she knows why she suddenly changed her mind. I hope you meet someone better for you. This may be a good thing.
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I don't really trust internet relationships....But, she is the one who really seems confused about all this.. you can try asking once more as to what really happened if you feel that it is worth it.. But, personally, I don't see this relationship heading anywhere if she can't muster up courage enough to trust you and tell you what the problem is after you guys have confided so much in each other ... Either she is in deep shit, or she was just playin around with you and got scared when you told her you were coming, or she might have been talking to you to divert her mind from some other problem she might have been facing and got scared when you really got your feet into it,or, taking what you say at face value, it seems that her comfort level is tipped toward excluding you out of her situation rather than seeking your counsel, which means you are better off without each other.... Think about it... As for my money's worth, I'd say any relationship can be called one only when it has progressed and come to the level where both of you can see each other in relation better than with any one else.. There is no point "building" a relationship... If it is compatible, it'll automatically grow up to that point without you setting pre-conditions that you have to live up to.... Try asking her sister or anyone else who knows her once more.... Try and see if you can actually help solving the problem at hand... If you can't, walk out... You deserve a deeper relationship for the amount of energy you are ready to invest.. Good Luck....
4 :
First, I really sorry to hear your story. I am Indonesian and this is not the first time I hear this kind of story. I think your girlfriend is not serious with you. She enjoy the feeling to be wanted by someone (man). She only flirt you, enjoy the heart beat when waiting for your call, and I think she is shocked when you seriously coming to Indonesia to meet her. She is not ready for "serious relation" with you. I suggest next time, if you meet girl on net, never think about it too serious until you meet her and talk to her face by face. Now because you are already in Indonesia, try to enjoy it? Like you said, you have to work hard to come to Indonesia, so why dont you try to enjoy it like holiday. (I know it hard but just try)
