Why does my best friend always try to compete with me? It's ridiculous?
I'm from England and she's from Indonesia and we both live in the US at the moment. She always tries to compete with me for some reason, even though there isn't anything to compete about. I don't fancy labels or buying labels or anything, but my parents have always taught me to dress appropriately(skirts, dress shoes, coats, etc.) and not only did she start wearing clothes like mine, but she compares it to her clothing by saying in this really smug voice, "well I got THIS at Ralph Lauren". And when she asks me where I got mine, I tell her I got my clothes custom-made because my parents don't believe in flashing around labels, and she tries to make me feel ashamed of it by saying stuff, "well it's okay if your parents are trying to save money it's totally understandable". Also, I fence and play polo on weekends so I don't have time to hang out with her all the time, and she gets angry and puts me down. She says stuff like "you know polo is such a manly sport. And only losers do fencing. it's not a real sport. no offense i'm not talking about you. i'm just talking about this girl i know who does that." I don't understand why she does that. And I know I shouldn't feel this way but she's making me ashamed of what I'm doing. I know i should stop being friends with someone like that, but she was such a sweet and kind girl before. she'd always make me laugh and help me out on homework. am i just overreacting? i don't know what to do. should i talk to her about this?
Adolescent - 8 Answers
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1 :
She is jealous of you.
2 :
No, you aren't over reacting. She's acting really out of line. You should probably stop hanging out with her for a while.
3 :
Maybe she's just naturally competitive or jealous.
4 :
I think that she is jealous of you. Maybe she wants the same things you have. I would try to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If she keeps trying to compete with and keeps being mean, tell her that you can't be friends with her anymore.
5 :
I think she's jealous of you. My best friend is like that too, but instead of competing with me, she tries to be exactly like me. It's so annoying!
6 :
1) i hope your friend realizes that getting clothes custom made is a lot more expensive then buying, even designer clothes. oh well. 2) shes soo jealous of you. i'd honestly just stop talking to her for a while or talk to her about it.
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You aren't over reacting, I have two friends like this. Maybe you should tell her when she says mean things like "No offense, I'm not talking about you. I'm just talking about this girl i know who does that." tell her that you know she's talking about you, and say even if she's not, it's cruel to make comments like that about anyone. I feel the same way about my friends, I can't decide whether to stop talking to them or not, because I don't know if it's the right thing to do. Don't hang out with her for awhile, maybe? Tell her "When you decide to stop being rude/mean to me, call me." Or something like that. Tell her how she's been acting, and hopefully she'll realize she was wrong and come and apologize. Hope this helps, and I hope she starts being nice to you. =] And by the way, custom-made clothing are probably MORE expensive than hers, just because you have the only one, and no other item will be identical to yours. She doesn't know what she's talking about.
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maybe she thinks you are better then her and she want to do everything she can do to be just like you maybe she dose not thing that you think that you think she is good enough. maybe she need you to pay some attention to her tell her she is pretty and that she is where nice clothing and you think she is hot and pretty
