Why is my father like this?
Well my father likes remind me of how inadequate i am.. Well for him at least.. I think i do alright in school, but he is always making fun of me and telling me to get out of the house, but almost never lets me sleep at a friends house or go out or anything, that's why i don't get out of the house, cos i cant.. When i get grades like C's he gets all mad and makes fun of me, and when i get A's he doesn't say anything, no reward, no pat on the back no 'good job son' no nothing.. That's why i'm not really motivated to do well in school, i don't really mind what grades i get cos there's really no incentive for me to do good.. Also, when it comes to choosing a job later in life, he always says, " why don't you work on an oil rig? those guys make loads of money and you don't need to be that intelligent' or other jobs that don't require much training, obviously implying that he thinks i can't do good..I really don't care about money, i just want to do something i like.. When i told him what i want to do, he just laughed.. Why does he always make me feel like i can't ever do good? I'm not stupid or anything, if i really want to i could get all A's but i just don't see the point cos i never get anything out of it.. Oh and he makes fun of my mom alot cos she is kind of poor, most of moms family is poor, and he's always saying things (when my grades are bad) ok why don't you go live with the 'winners' in LA? (i live in indonesia with him, biggest mistake of my life i really miss my mom!!) Thanks for reading..
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1 :
See if you can go back to live with your Mom or other relatives. Your incentive to make good grades is your future out of the situation you are in right now. Make very good grades, go to college if you can, and show your Dad how smart you really are, then shower your Mom with your kindness.
2 :
Some fathers are like that. Its because he was a loser. he behaves so. Thats just dad. ignore him if irritating and go for ur jobs prove u r not vat he thinks. I had it with my aunt. but now i proved and she has shut her mouth.
3 :
Your father is projecting his own insecurities on you. Some fathers feel threatened by a son who may become more competent and talented than they were. You need to be raised in a home with love, not derision. You don't want to hear your father's negaive voice in the back of your head limiting you all your life. If you can get back to your mom you should do so.
