my boyfriend is living with a married woman.?
we had been together for six years and he broke up with me after knowing her for 10 weeks. she is from indonesia and told him in her country they don't have sex before marriage. this is all well and good, but she lied about being married still and also hid the fact that she has a two year old son that she has abandoned from him. they have moved in together. she has told him that she would get a divorce, but you have to take classes when there is a child involved. any divorced person will tell you that the classes are only necessary when you plan on keeping custody. he told me they went shopping and she slid 200.00 worth of clothes at him and told him to put it on his card, and he did. he never bought me anything! he keeps calling and telling me to move on and that he wants to marry this girl. can this last? i know how sad and desperate i sound, and it just kills me to hear how totally happy he sounds whenever he calls. i do NOT call him. he called last month to tell me he wasn't calling anymore, and he hasn't. i think about it all the time. i feel so stupid because when he was with me, he had no money and right when he started making money, he left. i keep hoping something terrible will happen to both of them, but somehow i doubt it. i have lost my job. i was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. everything is getting worse, and his life is taking off, even though he is in an a relationship with a woman who continually lies to get what she wants. i feel stupid! what should i do?
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1 :
Honey, do you really think his life is taking off? It sounds like he's in a horrible relationship, and he's gonna get screwed. You on the other hand got the long end of the stick, because you are rid of him. You'll understand this in time. I"m sorry about your job and health, but stay positive, because depression will hurt your physical health. Stay strong and good luck.
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I'm sure it's hard to see it from where you're at right now, but from here it seems like you're better off. The guy sounds like an idiot for being with someone who would treat him like a paycheck. It might last and it might not, but you shouldn't be waiting for him to come back. It sounds like you have bigger things to worry you now. I'm sure it sucks, but moving on with your life seems to be the only answer. Leave the past in the past, if he does call again I wouldn't answer.
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I think it's time that you really started taking care of yourself,hon. Start eating healthy foods, start getting exercise (maybe some yoga),take a relaxing bubble bath. Start thinking healthy thoughts,volunteer at a charity, go to church, spend time with friends and thank God that you are rid of him. He sounds like a complete idiot. If he ever calls again, don't answer. Put your energy somewhere else. Take time to heal this and then look for love REAL love. You deserve someone high quality who appreciates you and trust me,he's out there!
